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How to become a morning person!

I have spent the last week trying to get up early and “dominate my day”. I did pretty well getting up early and getting my butt going on my day for the first week and theeeeen the weekend hit and my new program was thrown aside.

I want to get up and be all like “yeah I am ready to conquer the world” but in reality I am more like “hmm lets start this thing tomorrow”. Lazy is a good word to describe me first thing in the morning. I like sleep, but I seem to like it to much. In reality I don’t usually get seven or eight hours, I have trouble sleeping at night but NO problem sleeping most of the morning.  One of my problems is that I am always on a screen. I am either watching TV, using my computer, playing games on my phone or reading on my Ipad. Most of the time I am doing two of these things at the same time. By the time I climb in bed and read a book on my tablet for a while my brain is in hyper-drive and refuses to shut down for sleep time. I looked this up on WEBMD and amongst all the brilliant info on the subject this simple explanation stood out.


“One of the most simple but important reasons technology affects our sleep is cognitive stimulation,” says Mark Rosekind, PhD, former director of the Fatigue Countermeasures Program at the NASA Ames Research Center and president and chief scientist at the scientific consulting firm Alertness Solutions.

Our brain needs to be slowed down before bedtime with a cup of sleepytime tea and soothing music and not given Facebook and Plants vs Zombies to get us more riled up before the lights go out.

The solution is to put away all technology an hour before I go to bed. If I must read before I sleep I need to break out the real thing a “book” that has pages made of paper.  This way I can ease myself into sleep mode. One of the reasons I want to get better sleep is that I have read some studies that correlate insomnia with people who have dementia. My mother was an insomniac and she is in later stage dementia. This scares the pants off of me, I want to fix this ASAP, the last thing I want to do is to help dementia get a foot in the door with me! (I know it doesn’t work like that) but still I want to feel in control of my own brain health.

Soooo all of this was to say that I started reading a book called (The 5AM Miracle, Dominate Your Day Before Breakfast) by Jeff Sanders.  I found the book to be very thought provoking and a really clean way to look at the topic. I still need to go back and complete the action plans to really get a good grasp of my runaway life/schedule. Below is one of the chapter ending Quick reviews from the book (I hope this is not breaking a law or rule of blogging)


Why getting up early is so awesome

  1. You will have the precious time you need to effectively plan your day.
  2. Early mornings are ideal for meditation, prayer, yoga, or just a little quiet time.
  3. Your sleep is likely to improve dramatically with consistent bedtimes and wake-up calls. (I underlined this one)
  4. You will have more energy and a more positive attitude.
  5. It’s easiest to focus on your biggest goals.
  6. With improved mental clarity, your creative juices will flow even faster.
  7. Early risers tend to exercise more, eat healthier, and have a sexier body. What’s not to like? (I’m hearing the sounds of an AMEN coming to my lips!)
  8. Getting more done is nearly a guarantee when you wake up prepared to dominate your day.
  9. With a consistent 5 a.m. miracle in place, you are more likely to achieve your lifes grandest goal.
  10. Many high achievers wake up early and you are about to join them. (Hmmm. I hope so)From “The 5am Miracle” by Jeff Sanders Page 27

I’m going to try this again! I will set my alarm for 5:30 to start and get my butt out of bed, do my Bible reading and then enter my very unused exercise room. I WILL dominate my day and get some stuff done! I have some pretty big goals that I just need to put the sweat equity into and get it done!


What do you do?

How do you dominate your day?

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Dementia: I Hate You Part 4

IMG_0877Mom and I this Christmas!

In my last Dementia post I looked at some of the medical info on the disease(Picks Disease) my mother has so now I will go back to our personal journey.

The other day I received the publishers clearing house (You Could Be A Winner) envelope in the mail and this annoying piece of mail got me thinking about a “Mom event” that had everything to do with her dementia.

My mom called me one evening all excited about something. She would not tell me what it was other than she was about to make me very happy. I was to meet her for breakfast the next day to go with her to a meeting so when I get to the breakfast place and proceed to get some information from her. She is grinning from ear to ear as she tells me she “WON” publishers clearing house. I of corse am very excited for her and for my little family because she now wants to give us lots of money too. After some more talking I find out she found out she had won from a phone call in which she was instructed to send money for the “taxes” on the winnings, oh and that she had already met one of these gentlemen who had called her at a ATM to give them some money. She was just unbelievably excited to have me with her when she gave them the rest of the money! I was floored! Scared! and incredibly angry. I just knew that this was not true!

While she was telling more and more of this scary tale I looked into how the publishers clearing house presented winnings and if they ever charged anyone money for the taxes. I even called and talked to them while we were having breakfast. My mom was so mad at me for not believing her and for thinking she was being taken advantage of but, By now I knew she was being lied to and that she had no idea what was happening to her, I asked her if I could call these people for myself and ask them a few questions. She did not want me making the call so she dialed their number while we sat in her car in the restaurants parking lot. They started telling her to not listen to me and that she needed to leave me behind when she came to meet them. I took the phone from her and they actually argued with me and told me some complete lies about how this was a legitimate prize that my mother had won and that I was so awful for messing this up for my mother. I tried to get them to meet us at the police station or the lawyers office to show me that it is a real prize. It was almost comical how it played out. They of course refused to meet us anywhere but at their (hotel office). I left them thinking that we would be there within the hour after we picked up the money. I NEVER intended to go anywhere near these people. I called my husband for the 10th time during this whole mess and he suggested playing along and getting my mother to the bank to ask them some questions and hopefully get a police officer to join us at the bank if necessary.

We went to the bank because mom intended to get more money to give them and I intended to have someone talk some sense into her. The bank manager came out and talked to us and finally got through to my mother by explaining how this con works and that these people pray on older people who have just lost a loved one. I got her into her car and pointed to home saying that we would do more research and then make a decision. She is one stubborn woman! She was so mad at me because I had somehow ruined everything for her, like because I got involved it became a crime and not because she was gullible and an easy mark for these men.

Once we got home I called the police in my moms town and one of the state troopers came to the house to take our report. It was not until then that my mom started to understand that she had been conned and that she had put herself into a very dangerous situation. What is really funny is that the guy called my mom again while the trooper was with us and proceeded to argue with the trooper for some time even threatening the trooper saying that he was going to lodge a complaint against him. The trooper and I were taking turns on the phone basically telling these guys off and laughing at their stupidity!

I ended up having to block their number on all of my mom’s phones so they could not call her again and then proceeded to spend the night with her to make sure no one showed up at her door. Thank goodness I carry a gun at all times. I was scared that night and don’t think I slept at all. To think that my mom drove into town the night before and met one of these criminals and gave them about 600.00 dollars and would have given them much much more.

Early stages of dementia does more than steal a persons memory, it steals their commonsense. They no longer have the ability to see the dark scary dangerous forrest for the pretty trees. I had never been so scared and concerned for her safety before in my life. My mother who would never go anywhere strange or different without a friend or family had now started to make risky decisions. I now know poor reasoning skills are just one of the many early symptoms of dementia….


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Dementia: I Hate You Part 3

I am going to take a little detour in my Mom’s(Sally’s) story and talk about the disease itself. Everything I will be talking about here I learned from doctors and the internet….

Mom At her Nursing Home

Mom At her Nursing Home

Picks Disease is much worse than it sounds and harder to get info about than most of the types of dementia. No one would ever pick this decease for themselves or their worst enemy. When I was just getting into this with my mother I really knew nothing about dementia or Alzheimer’s disease. I was not sure if one disease led into the other nor did I have any other real way to understand the disease. I really thought they were the same thing and I find most people really do not have a true understanding of what it is. After many visits with doctors and nursing home nurses I think I have a good grasp of what it all means.

First question – What is the difference between Alzheimer’s and Dementia?

Alzheimer’s is an actual disease and it is one of the causes of Dementia.  Alzheimer’s is caused by a protein that develops tangles and plaques in the brain that cause the cells to no longer communicate with each other. In advanced cases the brain shrinks.

Dementia is not actually disease but a group of symptoms. These system cause a person to find it difficult to do many mental tasks like remembering things and clear reasoning skills. If a person was always a conservative person when dealing with finances you might notice they make some very opposite risk taking decisions. Early on my mom all of a sudden decided to get into some day trading and bought some Gold that was “held” overseas! SCAM! She was a financial person, she had her series 7 and she was also all about putting her money in SAFE investments. Her financial person even told me (later on) that mom was doing things that were not her norm. (Big symptom)

Second Question – How do you know there is something wrong with your Loved one?

It seams like the disease creeps up on you. If you live with someone full time you might not really notice for quite

a while. It might even be something that is noticed more by the friends of the person with dementia. The disease can start with forgetfulness, time management, and getting lost easily. My mom (Sally) was great at coping with things and still is in her limited capacity. She would cover forgetfulness with a joke, set an alarm to be on time and use her GPS even when it was her ride home from work. She was always super controlling/a perfectionist so even when she was falling apart not many would recognize it. It was her friends that noticed first, they noticed that she would lose words. She would be out for lunch and want to order french fries but could not come up with the right word. She knew it was the wrong word (fingers) but could not find the right one. At my Step Fathers funeral she read something she had written about him being a happy (camper) but she had written (cannibal). Unless we did not know Marvin very well he was not a cannibal! It was not until the depression of my Step Father dying kicked in did it become very apparent that mom was really not behaving normally.

Third Question – What is Pick’s Disease

I had so much trouble finding a good answer to this question. Its sciencey name is Frontotemporal Dementia. The following paragraph of information I am taking straight from a website called NIH National Institute of Neuralogical Disorders and Stroke:  (Frontotemporal dementia (FTD) describes a clinical syndrome associated with shrinking of the frontal and temporal anterior lobes of the brain. Originally known as Pick’s disease, the name and classification of FTD has been a topic of discussion for over a century.  The current designation of the syndrome groups together Pick’s disease, primary progressive aphasia, and semantic dementia as FTD.  Some doctors propose adding corticobasal degeneration and progressive supranuclear palsy to FTD and calling the group Pick Complex.  These designations will continue to be debated.  As it is defined today, the symptoms of FTD fall into two clinical patterns that involve either (1) changes in behavior, or (2) problems with language.  The first type features behavior that can be either impulsive (disinhibited) or bored and listless (apathetic) and includes inappropriate social behavior; lack of social tact; lack of empathy; distractability; loss of insight into the behaviors of oneself and others; an increased interest in sex; changes in food preferences; agitation or, conversely, blunted emotions; neglect of personal hygiene; repetitive or compulsive behavior, and decreased energy and motivation.  The second type primarily features symptoms of language disturbance, including difficulty making or understanding speech, often in conjunction with the behavioral type’s symptoms.  Spatial skills and memory remain intact.  There is a strong genetic component to the disease; FTD often runs in families.)

Wow… Scary stuff, especially the last line that states that is runs in families! I don’t know of anyone in my mothers family that has had dementia, I hope it does not start with us! Lets just say that I spend a great deal of time dwelling on this information. I think long and hard about every instance where I have forgotten a word or name of a show/movie/car etc…. I would bet that anyone who has a family member with any type of dementia has the same worries that I do. I worry most for my family… You know the WHAT IFS!

Fourth Question – Is there a cure or treatment?

Nope…. They say doctors are practicing medicine for a good reason, they don’t know what to do about dementia. Some things help slow things down and some things soften the symptoms but a cure? Nope! The progression of Pick’s disease is quicker than some types, especially when you keep in mind the fact that it hits much earlier than most types of dementia. a person with Pick’s disease generally has between 2 and 10 years. So if a person gets hit with this bus in their 50s they will most likely die in their 60s… Thats not very old at all, it seems younger and younger with each passing year! My mother is one of the youngest people in the nursing home she is in. She is 66 where as everyone else is 75 and older it seems.

Anyway I will get back to my mom’s story in Part 4! I felt it was important to define the disease before going on with our journey!



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Photo Dump – Dec. 17th 2015 Edition

So I want to start doing a monthly phone photo dump to show what really goes on in my life… lol Not much this past month, other than some birthdays and some Jamicures going on around here. I do see I need to include people in my pictures and not just the dogs! They are the only ones who don’t complain when I take pictures!


Gizmo Waiting for me to go to bed!

Molly asking if it time for bed.

Molly asking if it time for bed.

Mom's 66th Birthday

Mom’s 66th Birthday

Mom's Birthday Dinner... A little KFC makes her happy!

Mom’s Birthday Dinner… A little KFC makes her happy!

Lets have turkey for dinner!

Lets have turkey for dinner!

One of my birthday presents

One of my birthday presents

Prepping for a new project

Prepping for a new project

My new photography project! Could not do this with out Joel's help!

My new photography project! Could not do this with out Joel’s help!

My Jamberry Manicure

My Jamberry Manicure

Another beautiful Jamberry Manicure

Another beautiful Jamberry Manicure

AND one more Jamberry manicure!

AND one more Jamberry manicure!

Cold doggies after a bad mean person gave them a bath! lol

Cold doggies after a bad mean person gave them a bath! lol

Visiting mom.

Visiting mom.

Canning cranberries... Such a pretty color.

Canning cranberries… Such a pretty color.

So… Whats on your phone, post your favorite phone photo in the comments!



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Dementia: I hate You! Part 2

Dementia: I Hate You (part 2)


I hope this story can help others who are going through this!

I also hope my telling the story helps me as we all have doubts about if your doing the right thing or not!

Going to see the doctor was very peaceful. My mom loves her Doctor and I found her to be wonderful as well. My only complaint about the wonderful Doctor Barry is that she gets all up in your personal space. This is from dealing with older people on very stressful topics for years, no doubt. Mom however thrived being that close to her and felt very comfortable with her. She held her hand and looked right into Mom’s eyes the whole time they were talking.

Dr. Barry then asked some questions and also did a test with mom called the “Mini Mental” test. This test was eye opening to watch. The doctor asked mom questions that anyone would know easily and then had her do a copy a picture type of an activity. It was interesting that my mom could not come up with the names of simple objects but would try to cover with humor and laughter. The Doctor held up a blue paperclip and asked mom what it was but mom could not come up with the name so she called it a blue thingy ma bobby and mimed what it did. Mom did pretty well on the test but I guess, but missed enough to go on to the next level of testing.

Around this time because of all of my mothers needs I lost my job. My boss made it sound like a reorganization but I know it was because I needed too much flexibility and had only been working for him for a few months. Not long enough for him to care about my troubles one way or another. Oh well I needed to be available to mom anyway… She was our priority.

We were given an appointment with the doctors at our local hospital. The second level of testing was just a more extensive version of the Mini Mental test. The only real difference was that it included some balance and dexterity testing. She had no balance at all, but I don’t think she ever did. I think I have seen drunk people do better walking a straight line than she did. So after Dr. Barry looked over the new reports we were then given an appointment at L&M in New London.

In the time between doctors appointment I talked mom and my husband into doing a little house shopping and started searching for the perfect new home for all of us. Now most people would have had their mom move in with them or moved in with her but neither of those options would have worked. She refused to live with us because she would not be able to have her own space and because our house was not up to her standards. We could not move in with her because my husband would not be able to move that far away from his daughter’s mother so that they could continue to share custody of Hannah. SOOOO we needed to find a house that my mom approved of and that was close enough to Hannah’s mother. Fun Fun! It’s hard to remember to add in that my husband and I had to decide that we would leave/sell/rent our house and change our daughter’s school and everything else in between. We had lived in our home together for 5 years and he had lived in it for 5 years before that, so it was a bit of a painful decision that he made with out a backwards glance. (An angel he is!)

On the night before we were supposed to go house hunting at about 9:00pm my mother drove up to our house totally unexpected. She wasn’y supposed to be at our home until 9:00am the next morning. Mom thought she was on time for our house hunting fun. Hmmm… Its pitch dark out side and she was thinking it was morning. She had fallen asleep for a nap and woke up thinking she had slept all night. She got ready to come over thinking it was morning and drove to our house in the dark with out going hmmmm… something is amiss here! It was then we knew we needed to expedite things. Trying to explain things to her in a non-embarrassing way was difficult but we got her settled in to sleep on the couch and went to bed ourselves even though it was a little early for us. We did not sleep well but stayed up talking about the situation and listening for anything out of place in the house. Vigilance turned into a new way of life for us.

House hunting was a real nightmare because nothing was good enough and she couldn’t remember going to look at the houses not to mention if she liked one or another! Her friends were making it worse because I was moving her out of town, they made her upset time and time again by talking to her about it. They also called me to ask why it had to happen so soon and why we could not just live with her and a million other things. I know I had it easy in the sense that I did not have siblings to argue with but I really wanted to hang her friends by the toes a time or four. I must say that I truly love and respect both of my mom’s best friends. I used to call them my second mom’s and hopefully treated them with respect for the most part during this difficult time.

I have no idea what the specialist doctor’s name was but he was fantastic. We were lucky to get him for sure. He usually did not see out patients at all so our Doctor pulled a few strings to get us into see him. Mom was chatty the whole time we were waiting for the doctor but, I could tell she was feeling a little out of sorts this morning. I am not sure she really knew why we were going to see this doctor. All I know is what he had to say at the end off the testing changed everything.

This doctor asked question after question for almost three hours. He was trying to tire her out to see if her memory got worse as time went on. I don’t know that it did get worse during the testing. He asked the same questions at different intervals and she would answer them wrong more often than not. She knew who I was most of the time but she never knew where we were or why we were there. She always tried to cover and make light of what she was forgetting. She would say things like “Why would I care to know” or “everyone forgets that” or “wow I knew that a minute ago” or “oh it’s on the tip of my tongue. It was also interesting on how much she would look to me to fill in for her. I guess this has been our game for a while and before that it was what my Step-dad did. She would start to answer and then turn half toward me hoping I would jump in and save her. It was painful to not be able to jump in during the testing. My job was to let her try to answer and be there to clarify if she was right or wrong. Talk about feeling like a traitor. I had to point out every time she was wrong and I know that just made her memory worse through all of the embarrassment and frustration she was feeling.

By the end of the testing the doctor somehow had his diagnosis. He said that without a doubt my mother has Picks Disease. Which is one of the most awful types of dementia. Mom listened as he spoke but I am not sure what she understood. I did unfortunately understand and was just a little more than totally devastated. I won’t go into the features of Picks disease this time but stop here for now.

Except to say that this doctor help me by telling mom she could no longer drive and that she needed to be living with someone sooner than later. More on this in part 3.

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Friday Favorites (November 20th edition)

Whoo-Hoo its Friday! For most this is the best day of the week… At least when the clock hits 5:00 or so! Its now time to wind down, enjoy the family and catch up with your life.

My Friday favorites for this week are

1) The turkey I have cooking in the oven right now! It smells sooooo good! I covered it with bacon so it smells better than ever. Now some would ask why I am cooking a 21lb turkey on the Friday before Thanksgiving and that would be because we are going out to eat on Thanksgiving. I will be eating squash ravioli instead of turkey so we won’t have the much loved left overs.


2) Visiting family… I don’t have a picture but we will be visiting my husbands grandfather who just had surgery. He is 86 and has dementia. He was and is a joy to us. He is half deaf, confused and not feeling very well but we love him and try to see him as often as we can. Its just hard to get to the other side of the state as often as we think we should.

3) Spending my Birthday with Joel and Hannah. Joel/Hubby brought home Chinese food and presents for me and we just chilled out and watched The Librarians. Very fun show that we don’t mind our 13 year old watching. I have come to understand that a birthday is better spent quietly with those you love most than out partying with people who really don’t care who you are.



4) So excited to get my new Cookbook from Hannah for my birthday, (it is what I asked for.) I just love the Pioneer Woman Ree Drumond, I read her blogs, sometimes watch her show and now have all of her cookbooks.  Her new Cookbook “The Pioneer Woman Cooks Dinnertime” looks awesome. Now to pick out my favorite recipe!


5) Thanksgiving… I love everything about Thanksgiving except the cleaning up. We watch a parade, eat snacks and then a big lunch, and then we decorate for Christmas. We of course have cookies, eggnog and Christmas carols playing. Thanksgiving is just all about being thankful for who we have in our lives and thanking God for all of our blessings. Its nicer than the commercialism that is Christmas even though I do love the Christian meaning behind Christmas. Its just been turned into a time of gimme. So much stress. This year we will be eating out with Joel’s fathers side of the family and it should be a nice dinner at a nice restaurant with no muss or fuss.

I can’t wait to dig into the squash ravioli with brown butter sauce…. Sooooo Yummy.

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Dementia: I Hate You! (part 1)

I know I am not the only one to hate dementia! What is there to love or even like about it. It steals your loved one away from you in a slow and painful way. My mother was a smart lady who had her life in order. She and her husband had their lives all planned out, and then Dementia


This was my Mom Sally in 2008 with my Step-Father Marvin at mine and Joel’s wedding.

This was shortly before she retire.


My mother started feeling slow and stupid at work. Her work was taking her longer than ever before and she did not know why. She decided after a couple of years to retire early to save her from the stress and sleeplessness she was experiencing. After that her friends started to notice that she was forgetful and confused sometimes. She would forget what things were called, one day she was trying to order french fries and after much struggling she came up with “fingers”they all tried to laugh it off. The small stuff was adding up and her two best friends would call me to complain because they knew my Mom and Step-Father Marvin were not doing anything about her decline.

And then… Cancer… My Step-Father Marvin was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer. They didn’t catch the cancer earlier because Marvin was way to healthy. (ironic) After this diagnosis any chance that my mother would have gotten any testing or treatment went right out the window. It wasn’t that they decided that her condition didn’t matter it was that they had bigger fish to fry and did not really see anything medically wrong with Mom. My Step-Father was great at being her memory so it did not seem like she had a huge looming issue.

The truth didn’t get figured out until after Marvin had passed away. The shock of his death kickstarted her disease into overdrive. They say stress can make things worse and boy did it! Thank goodness for my Step-Aunt Shirley being around at the end of Marvin’s life and during the whole funeral ordeal. I had been kept in the dark for the most part when it came to mom’s problems. Marvin made sure we were involved with a lot of his information and all the legal things to be done pertaining to his dying. We knew that mom was having some difficulties with her memory and word recall but we had no idea of the scope of the issue. During the funeral Mom seemed out of sorts and unable to make any decisions. She was just plain angry at everyone who was involved with making any important decisions. After Marvin had passed away Mom seemed to be depressed most of the time. She did not leave her room much and ate very little. Canned beans was her food of choice when she did eat. She was not cooking or really going out of her room. It was all very confusing to me to come over for a planned outing and find that she was still in bed and really had no idea why I was over. I now wonder is she was confused as to who I was even then.

I talked her into getting a dog(BIG MISTAKE) and she seemed very happy with the dog. She however could not figure out the harness or anything else that pertained to Molly’s care. The dog peed all over her room because Mom had come to the decision that taking her outside to pee was mean. I think she was afraid to go outside if it was dark and that she did not want to get dressed to go outside either. I would try explain things so they made  sense to her but she would just get mad at me. Things were just getting stranger by the minute!

So I made my first Mother daughter doctors appointment!

To be continued…


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