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What is God teaching me this week? – Marriage….

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I am starting this series as way for me to talk about how God is impacting my life at this moment. It might be through Bible Study, a christian magazine article, Facebook post, a Christian meme, or a book I’m reading. Or it may be a conversation I’ve had with someone, whatever that something is it has mad me think about life and God. It will be something I need to share because I think others can benefit from it and maybe grow in their own walk.

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I’m currently reading a book called Whats it like to be married to me? by Linda Dillow. The title sounded kind of scary to me because I know me and it can’t be easy putting up with me in general. I think we humans are a pretty selfish group of people. We tend to look at how hard it is to be married to our husbands or wives without really thinking about it as this author proposes. What about us? How are we to be married to? Does my husband think YAY I’m going home to the perfect woman who I want to spend all my time with? I doubt it! I bet a lot of time he is just as happy to go to work as they/he are/is to come home to us/me.

In the third chapter she talks about a question that was posed to many men… She asks what is the one thing you would like to have in a wife? OK this does not seem so bad… what are they going to say “a good cook” “sex” hmmmm, a majority of the men said they want a wife who have a positive attitude toward life. They want to be married to someone who does not complain a great deal, someone who encourages them in life and is just plain pleasant to be around. I don’t think that is me! I know I can be a negative person about the everyday stuff at times. Not all the time but I know I was pretty convicted by the answer those men gave.

I know that when I am in a positive frame of mind my husband is also. If Im in a good mood my family has a much better chance of having a good day. I know this is very true on Sundays when we are always together from 8ish till about 3ish. If I’m complaining about everything from Hannah wearing the wrong clothing to how much I wish I could have slept in on this one Sunday, we are set to have a negative feeling day. If however I get up and complement what Hannah’s wearing and let the noisy goofing around happen without comment the day is much more positive. The old adage is unfortunately true; “If momma ain’t happy then ain’t nobody happy”. My husband hates that saying but we both know its true. Joel is very low key most of the time so even if he is in a bad mood everything goes smooth for the most part.

So whats a girl to do? This girl is going to make an effort to change her attitude. I have started praying about my complaint spirit and how I need his help to become the wife that Joel needs me to be.

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Dementia: I Hate You Part 3

I am going to take a little detour in my Mom’s(Sally’s) story and talk about the disease itself. Everything I will be talking about here I learned from doctors and the internet….

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Mom At her Nursing Home

Picks Disease is much worse than it sounds and harder to get info about than most of the types of dementia. No one would ever pick this decease for themselves or their worst enemy. When I was just getting into this with my mother I really knew nothing about dementia or Alzheimer’s disease. I was not sure if one disease led into the other nor did I have any other real way to understand the disease. I really thought they were the same thing and I find most people really do not have a true understanding of what it is. After many visits with doctors and nursing home nurses I think I have a good grasp of what it all means.

First question – What is the difference between Alzheimer’s and Dementia?

Alzheimer’s is an actual disease and it is one of the causes of Dementia.  Alzheimer’s is caused by a protein that develops tangles and plaques in the brain that cause the cells to no longer communicate with each other. In advanced cases the brain shrinks.

Dementia is not actually disease but a group of symptoms. These system cause a person to find it difficult to do many mental tasks like remembering things and clear reasoning skills. If a person was always a conservative person when dealing with finances you might notice they make some very opposite risk taking decisions. Early on my mom all of a sudden decided to get into some day trading and bought some Gold that was “held” overseas! SCAM! She was a financial person, she had her series 7 and she was also all about putting her money in SAFE investments. Her financial person even told me (later on) that mom was doing things that were not her norm. (Big symptom)

Second Question – How do you know there is something wrong with your Loved one?

It seams like the disease creeps up on you. If you live with someone full time you might not really notice for quite

a while. It might even be something that is noticed more by the friends of the person with dementia. The disease can start with forgetfulness, time management, and getting lost easily. My mom (Sally) was great at coping with things and still is in her limited capacity. She would cover forgetfulness with a joke, set an alarm to be on time and use her GPS even when it was her ride home from work. She was always super controlling/a perfectionist so even when she was falling apart not many would recognize it. It was her friends that noticed first, they noticed that she would lose words. She would be out for lunch and want to order french fries but could not come up with the right word. She knew it was the wrong word (fingers) but could not find the right one. At my Step Fathers funeral she read something she had written about him being a happy (camper) but she had written (cannibal). Unless we did not know Marvin very well he was not a cannibal! It was not until the depression of my Step Father dying kicked in did it become very apparent that mom was really not behaving normally.

Third Question – What is Pick’s Disease

I had so much trouble finding a good answer to this question. Its sciencey name is Frontotemporal Dementia. The following paragraph of information I am taking straight from a website called NIH National Institute of Neuralogical Disorders and Stroke:  (Frontotemporal dementia (FTD) describes a clinical syndrome associated with shrinking of the frontal and temporal anterior lobes of the brain. Originally known as Pick’s disease, the name and classification of FTD has been a topic of discussion for over a century.  The current designation of the syndrome groups together Pick’s disease, primary progressive aphasia, and semantic dementia as FTD.  Some doctors propose adding corticobasal degeneration and progressive supranuclear palsy to FTD and calling the group Pick Complex.  These designations will continue to be debated.  As it is defined today, the symptoms of FTD fall into two clinical patterns that involve either (1) changes in behavior, or (2) problems with language.  The first type features behavior that can be either impulsive (disinhibited) or bored and listless (apathetic) and includes inappropriate social behavior; lack of social tact; lack of empathy; distractability; loss of insight into the behaviors of oneself and others; an increased interest in sex; changes in food preferences; agitation or, conversely, blunted emotions; neglect of personal hygiene; repetitive or compulsive behavior, and decreased energy and motivation.  The second type primarily features symptoms of language disturbance, including difficulty making or understanding speech, often in conjunction with the behavioral type’s symptoms.  Spatial skills and memory remain intact.  There is a strong genetic component to the disease; FTD often runs in families.)

Wow… Scary stuff, especially the last line that states that is runs in families! I don’t know of anyone in my mothers family that has had dementia, I hope it does not start with us! Lets just say that I spend a great deal of time dwelling on this information. I think long and hard about every instance where I have forgotten a word or name of a show/movie/car etc…. I would bet that anyone who has a family member with any type of dementia has the same worries that I do. I worry most for my family… You know the WHAT IFS!

Fourth Question – Is there a cure or treatment?

Nope…. They say doctors are practicing medicine for a good reason, they don’t know what to do about dementia. Some things help slow things down and some things soften the symptoms but a cure? Nope! The progression of Pick’s disease is quicker than some types, especially when you keep in mind the fact that it hits much earlier than most types of dementia. a person with Pick’s disease generally has between 2 and 10 years. So if a person gets hit with this bus in their 50s they will most likely die in their 60s… Thats not very old at all, it seems younger and younger with each passing year! My mother is one of the youngest people in the nursing home she is in. She is 66 where as everyone else is 75 and older it seems.

Anyway I will get back to my mom’s story in Part 4! I felt it was important to define the disease before going on with our journey!

 

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Friday Favorites December 11th Edition

Right now I am trying my best to have my holiday attitude in place. (I love everything) is the attitude I am going for but being me that is not even a possibility! lol

So my 5 friday favorites are as follows.

  • A blog I read called CarrotsNCake.com ! Tina is a great writer, Mom, Wife, Cook and fitness enthusiast. I have been reading her blog for a few years and it is one of the first ones I go to when I log into my Bloglovin account. Today she posted on a soup she made that has kale in it. I have been avoiding kale like the plague for years. I even grew it in my garden this year, canned some and then gave most of it away. I can still say I have never cooked with it, that is until this coming week when I will make her soup.
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  • A book I’m reading that is by another blogger I follow, Crystal Paine from Moneysavingmom.com. The book is titled Money Making Mom. She talks about women starting home based careers, like blogging or selling crafts. These are both ideas that I am very passionate about. I don’t want to ever have to walk into an office to work everyday, so that being said I love any book that can inspire me with ideas and direction. Just FYI I obviously have a blog started and am in process of perfecting a craft to sell so yay me!
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  • My early Christmas present that I can’t wait to use. It is a Ninja 3 in 1 Cooking System. I just opened the box and just love it already! This glorified crock pot allows you to say…. Brown the meat for beaf stew and then cook it in the same pot. Less dishes make me very happy. I have always loved using a crockpot. I am not one of those people who got one when they got married and has it in it original box in the basement!  I also love practical presents. I am probably one of the few people who asked for a dust buster for Christmas when I was in college.
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  • PEPPERMINT…. I love peppermint everything! I can say the something about pumpkin in the fall but I think I love peppermint even more. As I am typing this I am eating my fifth or fifteenth Candy Cane Hershy kiss! LOVE THEM! Oh and don’t get me started on Starbucks Peppermint Mochas! I try to stay away but I get at least two per Christmas season… Sometime many more! Unknown-2 Unknown-1
  • OHHHH… That moment when you think you are all done Christmas shopping and can just relax and spend about ten hours wrapping presents! I do kinda enjoy Christmas shopping, when I have a plan. I hate it when I have no idea what to get someone for Christmas or a birthday. Its awful until you realize that is why they made grift cards! Those things are my saving grace for certain people! I have two nieces and a nephew in Georgia, they are all little and cute and have everything they need so what do I get them??? Hmmm send the mom a gift card and then she gets to give them what they really want! I know it seems like I am shirking my duties but I am a bit more practical than most and think its better to get someone what they want than what I want them to have. Some of the time that is!

Well thats it…. Have a great Christmas and I hope you get everything you need for Christmas and a little bit of what you want!

 

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Photo Dump – Dec. 17th 2015 Edition

So I want to start doing a monthly phone photo dump to show what really goes on in my life… lol Not much this past month, other than some birthdays and some Jamicures going on around here. I do see I need to include people in my pictures and not just the dogs! They are the only ones who don’t complain when I take pictures!

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Gizmo Waiting for me to go to bed!

Molly asking if it time for bed.

Molly asking if it time for bed.

Mom's 66th Birthday

Mom’s 66th Birthday

Mom's Birthday Dinner... A little KFC makes her happy!

Mom’s Birthday Dinner… A little KFC makes her happy!

Lets have turkey for dinner!

Lets have turkey for dinner!

One of my birthday presents

One of my birthday presents

Prepping for a new project

Prepping for a new project

My new photography project! Could not do this with out Joel's help!

My new photography project! Could not do this with out Joel’s help!

My Jamberry Manicure

My Jamberry Manicure

Another beautiful Jamberry Manicure

Another beautiful Jamberry Manicure

AND one more Jamberry manicure!

AND one more Jamberry manicure!

Cold doggies after a bad mean person gave them a bath! lol

Cold doggies after a bad mean person gave them a bath! lol

Visiting mom.

Visiting mom.

Canning cranberries... Such a pretty color.

Canning cranberries… Such a pretty color.

So… Whats on your phone, post your favorite phone photo in the comments!

 

 

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Eat. Thanks. Love. Dr. Oz The Good Life Article

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I love Thanksgiving! Its a time to get with those you love and thank God for all of the blessings in your life…Thanksgiving Should be a time to pray and reflect on your life. Some people see Thanksgiving as a time to just eat until your stomach hurts and then you fall asleep watching football in front of the TV. We live in such a truly secular society that many people do not care that the early Thanksgiving celebrations were a very pious and prayer filled event. Even the Native Americans celebrated a feast after a good harvest centered around thanking their creator.

I enjoyed reading the Article Eat. Thanks. Love. In the November issue of Dr. Oz The Good Life. It was filled with anecdotes from a bunch of famous people about how they celebrate being Thankful during Thanksgiving. They had spending time with family, going around the table and telling what they are thankful for, drinking and dancing as well as having topical food themes for the Thanksgiving menu. What I did not see was any mention of God. Not a single famous person acknowledged God as the giver of all of these blessings. Lisa Oz was the closest to showing a Christian leaning in how they give out meals on Thanksgiving. Her big quote was that “giving in this way makes me happier”. I guess this makes sense for the Oz family when Dr. Oz describes his beliefs as a mystical form of Islam closely related to Sufism.

Ok so the article disappointed me. I want everyone to believe as I do! (I do not force my beliefs down anyones throat) I just want those I care about to espouse the same values as I do. This is because I love them and not some need for control. I believe that my heavenly father is the giver of all good things. Knowing God and being saved has made me want the whole world to have the same security and love.

Anyway… This Thanksgiving make sure that you thank God for all of the family and friends you have and every other good thing in your life. Prayer

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30 Days Of Thankfulness – November 7th Edition

Friends… I am spending a weekend with two good friends, Michele and Shauna. We are doing some Scrapbookin for sure! I love our weekends together! We have not done a whole weekend together in a while! I know some snacks will be eaten and maybe our nails may get Jamberried. Who knows…. Maybe a glass of wine will be drunk. We are relaxing together with out the hubbies and with out the kids. Michele has been a great friend for years, we started a coffee house at church together, did singles ministry events together and then she was my maid of honor in my wedding 7+ years ago. Shauna has been a friend that I made through Michele and scrapbooking. We don’t hang out or spend any time on the phone but she has become a true friend that I know will always be around if I need her! Whats better that that. We all need friends to just decompress with and that just what we are doing.

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30 Days Of Thankfulness November 6th Edition

Hmmm… I used a bunch of things and people in my Friday favorites post!

I will choose to mention that I am very thankful that God has gifted me with ability and skills to do so many things. I love to craft and God has given me some talent in that area. I love to garden and God defiantly gifted me in that area this year. I love to read and have always excelled in that area in school and have read hundreds upon hundreds of books in my lifetime. I guess what I am saying is that I am never bored whether I am with other people or on my own. I never need to be entertained, This has made the last three years that I have not been working very pleasant most of the time. And for the record we do not have cable TV either…LOL We do have Amazon prime but the selection is a bit poor.

Happiness is being content with what God has given you and making lemonade out of any lemons that come your way

 

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30 Days of Thankfulness November 5th edition

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I am thankful for the ability to try something new, or at least something I have not tried in a while. I tried doing a family/slice of life blog that got thrown to the side due to the busyness of life. I will be starting a new blog soon…. Next week I hope, that will show the life of a Christian family who are getting ready to start a new life on a homestead/farm in Maine…

God gives us the ability do do so many things in our lives… He gives us talents that we are born with and H e gives us the ability to build and develop skills. I hope to do something wonderful with this blog and showcase all of the skills that we are learning in order to start our new Maine adventure. I hope to inspire others through our successes and failures to step out to do something new. We all need to find our God given passions and boldly run with them.

 

 

 

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30 days of Thankfulness for the month of November

Day 1, 2, and 3…

Hmmm – Taking and running with Amy Manseau’s Thankful posts on Facebook for the month of November… Time to catch up!

November 1st – Thankful that on Sundays I have an incredible church family to worship and serve with!
Everyone needs a good church family. If you don’t have one please come check out mine! lol
If your not serving and getting involved with the church family then you will never have an incredible church family. It takes time and effort. If you think a church should be full of perfect Christians then you don’t know Gods family. A church is a hospital room for broken people that come to your church and heal with the love of God. You will find bad attitudes and other not nice sinful attitudes in the church, but it our job as Christians to learn to loose our bad attitudes and actions as we develop our God attitude.
November 2nd – Thankful for having the best husband ever. He is sweet and wonderful and capable of so much. Joel loves God and tries ever so hard to live in a Godly manner. He believes in me and loves me for who I am. I will never claim he is perfect but he is perfect for me! What more can a woman ask for!
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November 3rd – Thankful that even at 13 my step daughter asked if we could have a pajama day so week could watch movies together all day! Spending the day hanging out together laughing at movies we’ve seen a million times before! Joel was happy to go to work today for sure!
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November 4th – I am thankful that I grew up in a family that loved me… My family was the picture of disfunction and craziness but my family made sure I knew I was loved. My mom always made sure that no matter who was mad at each other that I knew that love was underneath all of the stupidity. My family was and is just a little nutty!
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Gratitude

 

 

Thought For Today

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We are a world that needs to thank God for all he provides. What he provides will always be enough! The newest, brightest and best of everything on the market today are not what we need. We need to rely on God to know what we need and stop trying to do His job. I am not saying to sit back and do nothing, while expecting everything to be given to you. We need to work like crazy at whatever work God puts in front of us. Listen to God and follow wherever he leads and we will always have enough. BE GRATEFUL….

Therefore, since we receive a kingdom which cannot be shaken, let us show gratitude, by which we may offer to God an acceptable service with reverence and awe; Hebrews 12:28

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